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The Secret to Loving Yourself

Profound Little Messages to Change Your Life

‣ Learn how your earliest relationships shape who you are today.

‣ Discover why old emotional injuries keep resurfacing.

‣ Build a deeper connection and increased intimacy with yourself.

‣ Utilize the power of breath to balance your nervous system.

‣ Experience well-being as a palpable sense in your body.

‣ Develop greater resilience and authenticity.

The Secret to Loving Yourself

Our world is changing at warp speed. Things come up that trigger me, that cause me to become reactive, or make me feel anxious, nervous, frightened, or worried. Sometimes it’s financial matters, relationship issues, health news, or deep concern for the wellbeing of loved ones. I have friends going through every one of these challenges right now. I bet you do, too. It is difficult and confronting.

Beth Bardovi and Margie Gayle have been practicing and teaching Integrative Body Psychotherapy for many years. Beth has been my friend and teacher for almost a decade. She helped me realize that most of my troubling thoughts and feelings are the same as, similar to, or familiar in some way to events from my history—usually, my childhood history, boyhood days. Because my body remembers all the long-ago hurts, old upsets, old wounds, they can be re-triggered at any time by developments happening now. The messages in this lovely, beautifully written book are not messages that I received when I was a little boy.

I love you, and I give you permission to be who you are.
You can trust your inner voice.
It’s not what you do but who you are that I love.

Take that in for a moment… how that feels. If you sense as I do, that uncertainty is the new normal, then reparenting your younger self matters. Lucky for us, ‘The Secret to Loving Yourself’ is a master class in how to go about it.

Barnet Bain

Producer of What Dreams May Come, Author of The Book of Doing and Being

Become at Home Within Yourself 

the secret to loving yourself

Do you struggle to find and trust your inner voice?

In our 35 years as psychotherapists, we have witnessed countless clients struggle to find and trust their inner voice. However, when they discover that quiet, still voice within, they feel loved, understood, and whole.

The Secret to Loving Yourself involves traveling to your inner depths to embrace the child you once were and who remains inside you. As you tune in with compassion and get to know the young child you were, you can be soothed and calmed with understanding.

From this practice, you will experience a more profound, more vibrant love for yourself and others. Your essential relationships will become based on love and desire rather than longings and needs. And only then will you be able to deepen and expand the spaciousness inside so that love can cultivate as a state of being.

Change is possible.

It’s human nature to gravitate toward what is familiar. That old pull is there because that’s how you survived what felt intolerable growing up. However, lasting change requires letting go of old familiar patterns and swimming in uncharted waters. When the adult part of you can step in and be a good parent to your younger self, this early part of you begins to grow and thrive. With this newfound inner support, you learn to swim more skillfully in waters of increasing depth, which allows for transformation and lasting change.

I could not be happier I found this book. Integrative Body Psychotherapy seems to be a missing link for me. I’ve always been interested in seeking body, mind, and spirit connection – and this book brings those together for me. The messages and images inside are so beautiful and healing.

Mia Carrillo

The messages in this book are truly transformational. The kind you can read over and over and over again. 

Carlos Platon

A Look Inside

These profound little messages are the energetic feeling tones that a parent ideally gives to their child.

The Secret to Loving Yourself

About the Authors

Margie Gayle, PsyD

Margie Gayle, PsyD


Margie Gayle, PsyD is a licensed psychologist in California, a Registered Professional Counselor (RPC) in Canada, and a Registered Clinical Counselor (RCC) in British Columbia, Canada. The Los Angeles Central Institute of Integrative Body Psychotherapy (IBP) certified her as an IBP practitioner in 2008 and as an IBP teacher in 2014.

Margie now directs the IBP BC Institute and operates a private IBP practice in Vancouver, British Columbia. In Spring, 2020, she launched “The Core Self Transformation”, an online educational program designed to introduce the general public to IBP’s transformational personal growth work.

Her goals are to help her students and clients develop a deeper sense of self-awareness of their body-mind connection; expand their capacity for emotional depth and authenticity; discover powerful methods to remain present, grounded, and centered; and experience a sense of wholeness and connection inside, so that they feel empowered and in charge of their lives.


Beth Bardovi, MA, LMFT

Beth Bardovi, MA, LMFT


Beth Bardovi, MA, LMFT has been a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA since 1985. She has taught Integrative Body Psychotherapy (IBP) in the United States, Canada, and Europe beginning in 1989. She is an IBP practitioner and IBP teacher. Beth served as Director of the Los Angeles Central IBP Institute and is the Co-Founder and Executive Director of the IBP Institute in Italy.

Beth is a Transformational Faculty member of Mobius Executive Leadership and works with CEOs and business leaders of Global 500 Companies.

Her goal is to tap into the innate wisdom of body, mind, and spirit to liberate human potential. She uses breath to balance the nervous system, to change and release old habitual holding patterns, and to allow a deeper more authentic experience of self. Beth believes well-being is a body experience that increases joy, resilience, and aliveness and leads to deep and lasting transformation.